So I didn’t call Ashley all day Thursday. I am very proud of me for that. Yesterday (Friday) at around 4:00pm I called her from work to see what she was up to. She doesn’t have a home phone, just a cell phone, and it rolled over to voicemail. I didn’t leave a message.
I was just about home from work at 5:00pm, so I called her again. Again no answer. This time I left a message. It said “Hey Ashley, this is Daniel. Give me a call when you get a chance”.
At 8ish, I went out to Cafe Brazil with Tony for coffee. Went back to his place afterwards and didn’t end up leaving until about 1am.
Went over to Julie’s house. Julie had tried to call Ashley at around 10pm (when Julie got off work) and also got no answer. She left a message. I figured Ashley probably went to work and either left her cell phone at home, ran out of battery life, didn’t have it turned on, or was already at work when I called and had it stuffed in her locker. No big deal. Nick also said that he had talked to her earlier that day, though I couldn’t get him to remember at what time.
2:30am rolled around, just about the time Ashley should be getting home if she did indeed go to work. I didn’t want to call again, so I had Julie call her. Again, no answer. Julie left a message. It said, “Ashley, this is Julie. Give me a call when you get this. I’m at home”.
4am came and went, and still no call. I finally went home around 4:30am.
So… here is the problem. It is possible that she missed my 4pm call (in the bathroom or something) and didn’t bother to return it because I didn’t leave a message and she doesn’t know my work number to know it was me. It is possible that she then went to work, and ended up either getting off VERY late or just not feeling like going out and so therefore didn’t return any of the messages she had. It is entirely possible that she will return my call sometime today and all of this thought is simply due to over-reaction and over-analysis. It wouldn’t be the first time on my part. However, I cannot help but have other thoughts.
What if she is intentionally ignoring me, and Julie as well, knowing that I could be at Julie’s house? What if she is sick of me already, and would be perfectly content if she just never ran into me again… ever? Or, even worse. What if the guy next door that was giving her problems a few days ago decided to give her more problems last night? What if something is wrong? Or, maybe Ashley was a bit intoxicated on her way home from work last night and something dreadful happened?
I voiced these fears to Julie who offered no reassurance other than “Nah, she’s fine.” Thanks, Julie.
I guess I don’t have much of a choice but to wait it out. Assuming everything is okay, I should wait for her to return my call, I imagine. However, David and Julie and I are heading out to Arlington around 1pm or so to get Pho (actually… I never get Pho. I always get Cafe Su Da, Cha Gio and Bun Thit Nung) and then to Guitar Center. We were discussing Pho the other day, and Ashley seemed interested in trying it, so I am sure she would like to come. But… I guess I should just wait.
Initial dating rules are crap. If this world could just be open and honest, there would be no need for this crap. I could call someone everyday and if they didn’t feel like talking to me, they could just say, “I don’t feel like talking to you today, perhaps you can call again tomorrow?”. And if I called and left a voicemail for someone, and then decided I wanted to call them again before they returned my call, that would be fine. I do it with my friends, and my friends do it with me… why not? Eventually, if Ashley and I continue to see each other, these rules will disappear, it is just plain stupid that they have to exist in the first place.