I was inspired to, once again, take the “Color Quiz”:http://colorquiz.com/ once. And, once again, it’s “surprisingly accurate”:http://www.colorquiz.com/cgi-bin/results.cgi?do=print_blog&picked1=3,4,5,7,6,2,1,0,4&picked2=5,4,3,7,6,1,2,0,2&sex=Male&blog_name=Daniel. Just like last time, I find the it is most meaningful if I go over it and discuss each point in greater detail.
Daniel’s Existing Situation
Active, outgoing, and restless. Feels frustrated by the slowness with which events develop along the desired lines. This leads to irritability, changeability, and lack of persistence when pursuing a given objective.
I find myself holding some very good plans for getting where I want to be yet nothing seems to be able to happen fast enough for me. Part of it is pure impatience, which, while common now, would have been an unusual trait for me to express regularly two years ago. However, the other part is my inability to get everything else to line up in order to allow me to get there faster. This leads to a lot of irritability.
Daniel’s Stress Sources
Feels that life has far more to offer and that there are still important things to be achieved–that life must be experienced to the fullest. As a result, he pursues his objectives with a fierce intensity that will not let go of things. Becomes deeply involved and runs the risk of being unable to view things with sufficient objectivity, or calmly enough; is therefore in danger of becoming agitated and of exhausting his nervous energy. Cannot leave things alone and feels he can only be at peace when he has finally reached his goal.
Letting go is one of those things I have always had trouble with. I have an addictive personality and this is just one of the many ways that it manifests itself. I can never get enough and I have trouble letting go.
Daniel’s Restrained Characteristics
Believes that he is not receiving his share–that he is neither properly understood nor adequately appreciated. Feels that he is being compelled to conform, and close relationships leave him without any sense of emotional involvement.
Circumstances force him to compromise and to forgo some pleasures for the time being. Capable of achieving physical satisfaction through sexual activity.
This is something I’m just coming to realize myself in the past 6 months or so. But it’s true. I do feel like I give so much of myself to everyone and yet, despite that, there are very few relationships that I am a part of that offer similar rewards, understanding, acceptance, or appreciation. Almost all of my close relationships feel very emotionally detached. And that’s not what I want at all.
These feelings make me consider changing myself to better fit what the rest of society seems to provide. I end up adopting new policies for all my relationships as I did last week when I decided to “only give what I’m given”:http://revjim.net/2006/11/21/youre-just-jealous-cause-were-young-and-in-love/.
These days, sexual activity seems to be one of the only things that provides what it promises to provide on a consistent basis. Sexually speaking, however, believe it or not, I’m pretty picky about who I share what with. And, with all the changes I’ve been making in myself, the number of people I’m willing to even hint at a sexuality is even smaller. So even this outlet for expression, release, and the feeling of closeness with others is greatly reduced.
Daniel’s Desired Objective
Wants interesting and exciting things to happen. Able to make himself well-liked by his obvious interest and by the very openness of his charm. Over-imaginative and given to fantasy or day-dreaming.
I do want interesting and exciting things to happen. I have so many goals and dreams and desires and ideas. And I feel like so many of them sit around getting hard and moldy. While I am generally overly enthusiastic when I’m interested in some thing, some one, or some idea, and do consider myself fairly open with most people, I’ve rarely seen these traits make me “well-liked”. Maybe my poor self-esteem gets in the way? However, I certainly have plenty of fantasies and day-dreams. Some days, it’s almost impossible to get any work done because of them.
Daniel’s Actual Problem
Has a fear that he might be prevented from achieving the things he wants. This leads him to employ great personal charm in his dealings with others, hoping that this will make it easier for him to reach his objectives.
Really, this is one of my greatest fears. I feel that in accomplishment and achievement there is happiness. I understand that happiness is attainable in other ways, and am grateful to have experienced many forms of happiness in my life from many different sources. But, accomplishment and achievement seem to provide the most happiness, for the longest amount of time, with the most side-effects that themselves generate further happiness. So for me, this is it: creating, building, producing, learning, and accomplishing, the relationships that I create in the process of doing so, and the support that I receive as I progress it what makes me feel the happiest and the most complete.
 |
Daniel took the free ColorQuiz.com personality test!
“Wants interesting and exciting things to happen. A…”
Click here to read the rest of the results.
|
