revjim.net

Thanks to those of you who chimed in to my call for opinions regarding our moving situation. (Actually, most of the responses are on the LiveJournal version of that entry, if you'd like to read the discussion yourself.) And, if you haven't yet, your opinion is still considered valuable so, please, let me know what you think. At least until I make up my mind. Then just keep it to yourself, cause if you start changing my mind I'll be pissed.

To sum it up for you, the discussion brought forth the following very good points:

1. If we don't move into this house and yet we still move to NY, given the time table of buying a house there, our only option will be to get an apartment until after the baby is born. Short version of the math: it will take 9 weeks to get to NY, find a new house and close on it, putting us at moving in just 3 weeks before the baby is due, which just isn't going to happen.
2. Logically, staying in Dallas makes the most sense.
3. Emotionally, getting to Syracuse as soon as possible makes the most sense.
4. Jess and I really dislike the location, commute time, layout, size (both too small and too big), and neighborhood of our current house, yet moving somewhere else in Texas prior to having the baby is not an option. Moving to this house in NY makes all of that go away.
5. We just sank money into buying carpet we don't even want which we will, logically, be stuck with for 3 years or so if we stay here.
6. Karma/Fate/Destiny/Meant-to-be-ness seems to be steering us toward staying. (This was mentioned twice in comments, and once to me in bed last night by Jess).
7. As *BIG* as moving and location stuff is, it really is all superficial in the grand scheme of things. My wife, my new baby girl, my family, my friends and our happiness is what matters most.
8. Boobies make it all better… at least temporarily.

At this point, I think the best moment of clarity came with Nic's comment, which said:

My take is this, you wanted to move to Syracuse because a couple of things fell into place to make it possible. Those things have all flipped since then, leaving you with pretty much only the desire to move. The problem is, the means to move seem to be slipping away.

So, why not take your foot off the sinking ship now. There are way too many gambles and what-ifs, and with your special circumstances, you really should be thinking about security right now. A while down the road, where things are less chaotic and you have the time/means to make a safe move, you should go for it. I would just hate to see you guys gamble and lose, especially at this critical time in your lives.

So that's where it all sits now.

Here's what I'm leaning towards. Call the powers that be and find out if staying is still an option (since I've already officially indicated that we'd still like to go). If it is, then wait out the current housing situation until 2 weeks after our rough closing date — which would be 10/15. At that point, if there's no house, then we just stay here. Meanwhile, go about our lives as though we are staying. Start getting the house ready for a baby, making changes we've been putting off, etc. If staying is no longer an option, or isn't an option I can drag out until 10/15, then just move into an apartment in NY and consider that "done" until March or April of next year.

Thoughts?