Comments on: stagnant http://revjim.net/2008/07/30/stagnant/ because a Reverend can't be wrong. Sat, 31 Dec 2011 16:11:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Daniel http://revjim.net/2008/07/30/stagnant/comment-page-1/#comment-143355 Daniel Fri, 01 Aug 2008 20:44:12 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=11656#comment-143355 You're right. Part of what makes me (and possibly you) stagnant is that<br>routine. After 9 hours at work, 3 hours in traffic, and only 3 hours of time<br>left until I have to go to bed, sitting on the couch in front of the TV with<br>a bowl of ice cream instead of getting out to take night photos just seems<br>like a better way to spend the evening.<br><br>I'm sure the same is true for you. After 12 hours of handling screaming,<br>eating, peeing, pooping baby, along with house work, errands, bills, and<br>other things to keep our home running smoothly and only 3 hours left in your<br>day, in that moment, doing something relaxing seems a better use of your<br>time than continuing to go ... go ... go. And, of course, even if you do<br>decide to go go go, there's still a baby to take care of ... at least every<br>other day.<br><br>I love you too. Thanks for your reply. You're right. Part of what makes me (and possibly you) stagnant is that
routine. After 9 hours at work, 3 hours in traffic, and only 3 hours of time
left until I have to go to bed, sitting on the couch in front of the TV with
a bowl of ice cream instead of getting out to take night photos just seems
like a better way to spend the evening.

I'm sure the same is true for you. After 12 hours of handling screaming,
eating, peeing, pooping baby, along with house work, errands, bills, and
other things to keep our home running smoothly and only 3 hours left in your
day, in that moment, doing something relaxing seems a better use of your
time than continuing to go … go … go. And, of course, even if you do
decide to go go go, there's still a baby to take care of … at least every
other day.

I love you too. Thanks for your reply.

]]> By: Jess http://revjim.net/2008/07/30/stagnant/comment-page-1/#comment-143354 Jess Fri, 01 Aug 2008 20:35:12 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=11656#comment-143354 It's too easy to become stagnant. I've found, for me (not trying to take the focus off you, just trying to show I can relate), I've let the baby become my entire identity. And while I love her, and I love being a mother, now, all of a sudden, parts of me are SCREAMING to get out, to do something for ME, to have some moments alone so I can find myself again. While I love my current life, I still miss the possible spontaneity, the ability to just go out and see friends and do nothing till the wee hours of the morning. I've wrapped myself up so tightly in the baby that I feel like I'm not my own person anymore. <br><br>That's why I'm forcing myself to write again. It's not much, but it's something, something I can do for me, something to exercise my brain. I think it's good that you keep writing; I've always found it helpful.<br><br>Maybe we need to start challenging ourselves, and each other, more. I'm not sure how we can do that, but I'll think of something.<br><br>I love you. It's too easy to become stagnant. I've found, for me (not trying to take the focus off you, just trying to show I can relate), I've let the baby become my entire identity. And while I love her, and I love being a mother, now, all of a sudden, parts of me are SCREAMING to get out, to do something for ME, to have some moments alone so I can find myself again. While I love my current life, I still miss the possible spontaneity, the ability to just go out and see friends and do nothing till the wee hours of the morning. I've wrapped myself up so tightly in the baby that I feel like I'm not my own person anymore.

That's why I'm forcing myself to write again. It's not much, but it's something, something I can do for me, something to exercise my brain. I think it's good that you keep writing; I've always found it helpful.

Maybe we need to start challenging ourselves, and each other, more. I'm not sure how we can do that, but I'll think of something.

I love you.

]]> By: Jim Reverend http://revjim.net/2008/07/30/stagnant/comment-page-1/#comment-134506 Jim Reverend Fri, 01 Aug 2008 15:44:12 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=11656#comment-134506 You're right. Part of what makes me (and possibly you) stagnant is that<br>routine. After 9 hours at work, 3 hours in traffic, and only 3 hours of time<br>left until I have to go to bed, sitting on the couch in front of the TV with<br>a bowl of ice cream instead of getting out to take night photos just seems<br>like a better way to spend the evening.<br><br>I'm sure the same is true for you. After 12 hours of handling screaming,<br>eating, peeing, pooping baby, along with house work, errands, bills, and<br>other things to keep our home running smoothly and only 3 hours left in your<br>day, in that moment, doing something relaxing seems a better use of your<br>time than continuing to go ... go ... go. And, of course, even if you do<br>decide to go go go, there's still a baby to take care of ... at least every<br>other day.<br><br>I love you too. Thanks for your reply. You’re right. Part of what makes me (and possibly you) stagnant is that
routine. After 9 hours at work, 3 hours in traffic, and only 3 hours of time
left until I have to go to bed, sitting on the couch in front of the TV with
a bowl of ice cream instead of getting out to take night photos just seems
like a better way to spend the evening.

I’m sure the same is true for you. After 12 hours of handling screaming,
eating, peeing, pooping baby, along with house work, errands, bills, and
other things to keep our home running smoothly and only 3 hours left in your
day, in that moment, doing something relaxing seems a better use of your
time than continuing to go … go … go. And, of course, even if you do
decide to go go go, there’s still a baby to take care of … at least every
other day.

I love you too. Thanks for your reply.

]]> By: Jess http://revjim.net/2008/07/30/stagnant/comment-page-1/#comment-134505 Jess Fri, 01 Aug 2008 15:35:12 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=11656#comment-134505 It's too easy to become stagnant. I've found, for me (not trying to take the focus off you, just trying to show I can relate), I've let the baby become my entire identity. And while I love her, and I love being a mother, now, all of a sudden, parts of me are SCREAMING to get out, to do something for ME, to have some moments alone so I can find myself again. While I love my current life, I still miss the possible spontaneity, the ability to just go out and see friends and do nothing till the wee hours of the morning. I've wrapped myself up so tightly in the baby that I feel like I'm not my own person anymore. <br><br>That's why I'm forcing myself to write again. It's not much, but it's something, something I can do for me, something to exercise my brain. I think it's good that you keep writing; I've always found it helpful.<br><br>Maybe we need to start challenging ourselves, and each other, more. I'm not sure how we can do that, but I'll think of something.<br><br>I love you. It’s too easy to become stagnant. I’ve found, for me (not trying to take the focus off you, just trying to show I can relate), I’ve let the baby become my entire identity. And while I love her, and I love being a mother, now, all of a sudden, parts of me are SCREAMING to get out, to do something for ME, to have some moments alone so I can find myself again. While I love my current life, I still miss the possible spontaneity, the ability to just go out and see friends and do nothing till the wee hours of the morning. I’ve wrapped myself up so tightly in the baby that I feel like I’m not my own person anymore.

That’s why I’m forcing myself to write again. It’s not much, but it’s something, something I can do for me, something to exercise my brain. I think it’s good that you keep writing; I’ve always found it helpful.

Maybe we need to start challenging ourselves, and each other, more. I’m not sure how we can do that, but I’ll think of something.

I love you.

]]> By: Jim Reverend http://revjim.net/2008/07/30/stagnant/comment-page-1/#comment-134504 Jim Reverend Thu, 31 Jul 2008 10:11:32 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=11656#comment-134504 More than anything, it's just a heavily edited brain dump, not any kind of real conversation. But, you're right, it does help some, just to get it out.<br><br>I do have lots and lots of very good friends. And I appreciate that so many of you are so willing to offer help. More than anything, it’s just a heavily edited brain dump, not any kind of real conversation. But, you’re right, it does help some, just to get it out.

I do have lots and lots of very good friends. And I appreciate that so many of you are so willing to offer help.

]]> By: vaxocentric http://revjim.net/2008/07/30/stagnant/comment-page-1/#comment-134503 vaxocentric Thu, 31 Jul 2008 04:36:44 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=11656#comment-134503 Talking about it is good. You've got a lot of people who consider you their friend. You need to see us more often! Talking about it is good. You’ve got a lot of people who consider you their friend. You need to see us more often!

]]> By: Em http://revjim.net/2008/07/30/stagnant/comment-page-1/#comment-134502 Em Wed, 30 Jul 2008 23:33:13 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=11656#comment-134502 *hugs* *hugs*

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