(I can't keep track of what's supposed to be a secret anymore and what isn't. Or maybe I just don't care enough anymore to keep track. All I know is I hate writing in LiveJournal these days, so, this is public.)
I've been up since 5am, cleaning, paying bills, and doing chores. I've got about 15 minutes free before I have to rush to take a shower, get dressed, get Celeste up, feed her, rush her to daycare and get to work. And I've decided to spend them with you. Awww, ain't that sweet.
Jess moved out this past weekend. Her place is very nice. I was worried about what kind of apartment one could find for what Jess can afford but, it's actually quite nice and I feel very confident that Jess and Celeste will be safe there.
I got another surprise (to me, not to Jess) visit from my Father-In-Law. He helped make sure Jess was on her feet and I certainly can't fault him for that, I'd do the same. I'm still not sure why it had to be a secret. Jess decided to go to work on Monday and he was still here and, of course, wanting to see his granddaughter. So I ended up taking Monday off of work to hang out with him and take care of Celeste. It actually wasn't as bad as it sounds. It wasn't great either.
I tried to keep as many people around as possible while he was here and while the move was happening but, alas, at midnight or so Saturday night he cornered me alone. I don't mind talking to him. It's easier than talking to Jess, actually, because he speaks his mind and he tries to understand. The only bad side is that he is arguing FOR Jess with the bias that a father SHOULD have toward his daughter. Which doesn't really make him a very good mediator. So, thanks to that conversation my situation is now a little more difficult than it was before he came. But, it'll all work itself in the end. Maybe even for the better. Only time will tell.
Jess leaving is bittersweet. As I said (in divorce, death, and the afterlife) getting a fresh start is something I'm looking forward to. But there is some sadness there too.
Most importantly, I'm sad about the end of our ability and means to parent Celeste together. Even with Jess and I maintaining very different schedules and me spending a lot of time alone with Celeste, there were still plenty of moments, however brief, that we parented her together. Watching her run back and forth between us with a smile on her face is something I'll forever miss.
Being able to get even the smallest of things done around the house because there were another set of hands around to care for the baby means more than can easily be explained, too. Even though it only happened once in a while, it was enough to get by and keep things sane.
There's also a ton of mess left behind. Bedding upstairs that she slept on for one night. Her dad's bed in the playroom. Boxes and bags full of stuff she hasn't picked up yet laying all over the master bedroom. A garage full of stuff that needs to be sorted out. A dresser full of clothes. The good side is that, it seems, 80% of the stuff in our master bedroom closet was hers. So, reorganizing that might even be a task I can do with Celeste's help now.
Finally, I'm worried that we may never be able to tie up the few loose ends we have with our situation. With her in this house, every now and then we got a chance to take and take little baby steps closer to the end. With her being gone, I'm not sure we'll ever get there. Only there has to be an end. So, I'm not sure what that will take, but I'm sure I won't like it.
Okay, that's way more than 15 minutes. Now I'm going to be late. Send love. And, hey, let's hang out some time.
NOTICE: Oh and if you know of any single moms or dads who would be interested in having a very caring and super awesome roommate (ok… maybe I'm a bit biased there) who would give them an awesome deal on rent and/or pay them for live in nanny services, please have them email or call me. I'm very serious.
