I'm getting there. One day at a time. That's sort of my new mantra. Although sometimes, I have to resort to "one minute at a time", I can get through.
ON MOVING
My neighbors are the best I've ever had anywhere ever. My neighborhood is quite nice and there's always something going on and people to run into. I'm close enough to stores and shops and things that I enjoy and that fact gets better every day. Although I'm still a ways away from work, Celeste's daycare is only about 15 minutes out of my way. And, as long as I don't drive in rush hour, getting her to and from the house is not too bad.
Renting my house out would be a pain in the ass and a financial burden. Having to live in a rented place would also be a slight pain in the ass and, potentially, a financial burden.
I could move, but there's no clear cut place to go. Keller makes since until my parents leave. And they've made it very clear that they are leaving whether I need them or not. Denton makes sense for my lifestyle. Justin (NorthWest of Keller) makes sense for affordable housing and proximity to lots of friends. Carrollton makes sense for being close to daycare and Jess. But each of these options also has a bunch of negatives. Imagine me going to work in Irving, then driving to Carrollton to get Celeste, then driving to Justin. I'd spend so much time driving being close to my friends wouldn't matter because they'd all be in bed when I got home anyway. And working from home would be nearly impossible.
So… all of that to say I'm staying put. At least until I can sell or easily rent, I have a clear direction on where to live, and I can qualify to BUY the second house, not rent.
Which also means I'm putting in hardwood (or laminate) flooring. It's not going to happen this weekend. So those of ou who have offered help (for which I am so grateful), I'll let you know when. Soon though. I'm still trying to source the right flooring for me.
CLEANING IT OUT
My house is in shambles. Like, upside down, crazy messes in every corner. And I want to overhaul it all anyway. I do have a plan of attack. For the big stuff:
- Clean the Garage
- Prepare shelving in the Garage (my only real place to store anything in this house) to hold any bulk products
- Clean Master Bedroom Closet
- Clean kitchen cabinets and pantry
- Organize and add shelving to Laundry Room
- Figure out what to do with the game room (office? living? photo studio? your thoughts?)
- Prepare Guest Room (possible office?)
- Done!
For the rest of the house, I'm just going one room at a time nice and slow moving the mess away. If it's stuff that needs to be stored, for now I'm just throwing it in the garage or closet until I get to them. There's no point in trying to organize something half-assed when I need to overhaul it anyway.
HELP?
Having Celeste running around can make some things almost impossible. Cleaning the garage, for instance, is difficult. It's too messy and dangerous for her to play in right now. And most of the stuff is too big for me to life while holding her. So, I can only clean it when she's sleeping. Which means it could take a while.
I'm not really keen on asking people to clean my house for me. But, if you like hanging out and like children and wouldn't mind providing an extra set of hands to chase Celeste around, I could surely use them. In fact, I rarely turn down the offer for company. Even with little to no notice. So, please, give me a call. I cook well and am always very gracious.
THE IMPORTANT THINGS
I'm slowly learning to re-prioritize myself. When Jess was around it was easy to know that if I wasn't caring for Celeste then she was. So there was never any question when it came to stuff like "should I pull the weeds when I get home today or not?". (That doesn't mean I did it, mind you, but there was a clear indicator on whether or not I should).
These days that's much different.
I'm learning that I'd rather have my HOA screaming at me for having the worst yard in the neighborhood and a happy, laughing, baby than to have the most beautiful lawn in the world and a kid who plays all by herself all the time, is require to play in a playpen every day instead of the real world, or who cries for her daddy and doesn't receive his comfort.
This may seem like a simple lesson to you, but my sense of obligation and responsibility is strong. So I find myself very guilt ridden when making choices like this. But I'm figuring it out. Like I said… one day at a time.
CELESTE
My daughter is amazing. Beyond amazing. Not a day goes by that I don't find myself in awe at how unconditionally I love her and how much she warms my heart and enriches my life. No matter what happens between Jess and I or what kind of relationship we manage to maintain, I will always be grateful to her for bringing this beautiful girl into the world.
