Comments on: Still deciding http://revjim.net/2009/12/24/still-deciding/ because a Reverend can't be wrong. Wed, 09 May 2012 16:43:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Daniel http://revjim.net/2009/12/24/still-deciding/comment-page-1/#comment-143228 Daniel Thu, 24 Dec 2009 20:19:28 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=12484#comment-143228 Merry Christmas to you and yours. Give your mama a great big hug from C and<br>me. Merry Christmas to you and yours. Give your mama a great big hug from C and
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]]> By: Farris http://revjim.net/2009/12/24/still-deciding/comment-page-1/#comment-143227 Farris Thu, 24 Dec 2009 20:09:39 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=12484#comment-143227 Divorce and fate have finally conspired in our favor this year. Previously, we've also had to make semi-tough decisions regarding where to spend our 3-4 day Christmas trip and with whom. This year, it's all planned, and if it doesn't work out, FUCK IT.<br><br>Day one: Travel. Be on vacation. Hug Mama. Possible sushi.<br><br>Day two: SANTA! Your mom is right, by the way. Don't be bitter that she told C the truth about Santa. After Santa, we might drive to my dad's at the beach for Rush-fried Turkey.<br><br>Day three: Christmas In The Sticks With The Hicks.<br><br>Day four: Travel. Home. Band practice. Divorce and fate have finally conspired in our favor this year. Previously, we've also had to make semi-tough decisions regarding where to spend our 3-4 day Christmas trip and with whom. This year, it's all planned, and if it doesn't work out, FUCK IT.

Day one: Travel. Be on vacation. Hug Mama. Possible sushi.

Day two: SANTA! Your mom is right, by the way. Don't be bitter that she told C the truth about Santa. After Santa, we might drive to my dad's at the beach for Rush-fried Turkey.

Day three: Christmas In The Sticks With The Hicks.

Day four: Travel. Home. Band practice.

]]> By: Daniel http://revjim.net/2009/12/24/still-deciding/comment-page-1/#comment-143203 Daniel Thu, 24 Dec 2009 18:42:15 +0000 http://revjim.net/?p=12484#comment-143203 (this comment was left on Facebook. I haven't figured out how to get the two to copy back and forth to each other yet, so I'm copying it over here because I think it's important enough to be mentioned.)<br><br>Kelly Wrote: My two cents is that you really should stay home, but then go out as soon as you want in the morning. ... I like to make the point to [my daughter] that she and I can be all the family we need. I know it sounds a little odd, but it's nice when we can have our time and then when we're around other family she can be like "oh, me and mommy already did that". But, you should really do whatever makes you most happy. Just don't go crazy over it. As long as you're happy, she's happy :)<br><br>---<br>Maybe you're right. Maybe I should start preparing her for the inevitability of Christmas with just the two of us in the future. Or at least the idea that we may have to travel on Christmas day to see people. <br><br>I'm just such an idealist about it all. <br><br>I firmly believe that ONE person -- a mom, a wife, a dad, a husband, a sister, a brother, a whatever -- is not all we need. Yes, we can get by on that much. We can even find a way to be really happy with just one other person. Hell, we can get by on even less for a time -- I know I have. But, in the end, social interaction is part of what makes us human. If we didn't/couldn't depend on each other then this world would look a lot differently than it does now.<br><br>Maybe it makes more sense to go to our friend's house tonight, then come home. Get up Christmas Day, do our small Christmas here alone, then get ourselves ready and head out to my mom's house for the rest of Christmas. Have Christmas dinner there and then spend the night. Then the day after Christmas it's Celeste's birthday. Instead of having my parents come here, we could just spend it there and come home afterwards. (this comment was left on Facebook. I haven't figured out how to get the two to copy back and forth to each other yet, so I'm copying it over here because I think it's important enough to be mentioned.)

Kelly Wrote: My two cents is that you really should stay home, but then go out as soon as you want in the morning. … I like to make the point to [my daughter] that she and I can be all the family we need. I know it sounds a little odd, but it's nice when we can have our time and then when we're around other family she can be like “oh, me and mommy already did that”. But, you should really do whatever makes you most happy. Just don't go crazy over it. As long as you're happy, she's happy :)

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Maybe you're right. Maybe I should start preparing her for the inevitability of Christmas with just the two of us in the future. Or at least the idea that we may have to travel on Christmas day to see people.

I'm just such an idealist about it all.

I firmly believe that ONE person — a mom, a wife, a dad, a husband, a sister, a brother, a whatever — is not all we need. Yes, we can get by on that much. We can even find a way to be really happy with just one other person. Hell, we can get by on even less for a time — I know I have. But, in the end, social interaction is part of what makes us human. If we didn't/couldn't depend on each other then this world would look a lot differently than it does now.

Maybe it makes more sense to go to our friend's house tonight, then come home. Get up Christmas Day, do our small Christmas here alone, then get ourselves ready and head out to my mom's house for the rest of Christmas. Have Christmas dinner there and then spend the night. Then the day after Christmas it's Celeste's birthday. Instead of having my parents come here, we could just spend it there and come home afterwards.

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